Where Do We Go From Here?

Well, it looks like we will be waiting until the "NEW" session to get any sort of Immigration reform passed.  It has been quite a frustrating ten years for those of us who have been waiting for some sort of immigration change so that we can sponsor our partners.  I realize that some folks don't think that we deserve the same rights as those who are hetrosexual, but I am an American citizen and I believe that I should be able to have this simple right, to be able to live with the love of my life. 

People seem to think that all homosexuals are hyper sexed.  Gays will sexually attack anyone of the same sex because Gays are sexual deviants.  The truth of the matter is this:  I have never cheated on my sweetheart for these 12 years that we have been together.  We have two sons together.  We have built a life together.  Quite frankly, my relationship with my sweetheart is a lot more stable than a lot of my hetro friends.  My co-workers are going through all kinds of issues (I work at a hospital.  These are doctors, RN's, Respiratory Therapists that I am talking about).  They are having spouses who are cheaters or they are cheaters.  They have domestic abuse issues, divorce, and huge disagreements that lead to separations.  I know several gay people and only one of them is a real player.  The others have been in stable relationships for at least eight years.  The longest relationship of my gay friends is over 30 years.  There really are not a lot of hetro people who are in the same boat.

 When they speak of family values, what do they mean?  We go to church every Sunday.  Our children are in boy scouts, they make good grades, they go to AWANA,   We volunteer at the local food pantry.  I work in health care and have received recognition for the work that I do.  I have taught in schools about lung health and I love the work I do.  Our children are taught to be good citizens and to respect authority.  We teach them love of God and country.  If these are not family values, what are they?  Because my sweetheart and I are of the same sex does that mean I cannot have family values?  I think not. 

I believe that where we go from here is that we email, we tweet, we call and write our Congress people until the first thing they think of every morning is the Uniting American Families Act, and the last thing they think of every night is Uniting American Families Act.  This year is our year!  We will not retreat, we will not surrender.