Monday, December 26, 2011

Family Values, High Morals, and Defending Marriage

Why do you suppose folks who rarely pick up a Bible can almost quote word for word the verses that they erroneously think condemn same sex relationships?

Why do you suppose these same people refuse to acknowledge the fact that the Bible calls their sins abomination?

Why do you suppose time after time, the same people are brought down for doing things that are less then ethical?

I have two sons.
I believe in family values.
I am married.
I have high morals, I have never cheated on my spouse.  I am honest, truthful and a hard worker.  I have worked for the same company for 20 years.
I believe in defending marriage.  I think that the decline of the family and marriage is appalling.
My family attends church regularly.
My Boys are boy scouts.
They attend AWANA every Monday night.
My boys are both exceptional students with straight A's.

How can people be against my family and my marriage?  How can people say that I am not for family values because I am a lesbianHow can people say that I am less than them and that I don't deserve the same rights as a heterosexual couple?

I would like for my marriage to be recognized by the State and Federal governments.  I would like to not have to hide my relationship for fear of bullying.  I believe that the government is responsible for the bullying of the Lesbian and Gay people because they have not made us equal.  Bullies will always pick on someone that they perceive to be inferior to them and the US State and Federal government's failure to recognize us as equal, feeds right into their bullying. 
I am not the exception in the Lesbian and Gay community.  I am the rule.  Our families....our values.... our morals.........  We are pro family.  We are pro marriage.  We are for family values.  We would like to be treated equally as our heterosexual counterparts.

How can the US Government refuse my family equal rights and equal protection?  To continue to discriminate against us is immoral, anti-family, anti-marriage, and unAmerican.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

When a Kiss is Not Just a Kiss

Petty Officer 2nd Class Marissa Gaeta won a raffle on the dock landing ship Oak Hill to be the first to kiss a loved one on its return to port in Virginia Beach. Petty Officer 3rd Class Citlalic Snell was waiting when she crossed the brow. Story

Congratulations to these young ladies.  While many folks may not understand the hoopla and the fanfare around all of this and the importance of this kiss, same sex couples everywhere hail this as a historical kiss.  
Bi-national same sex couples look upon this as it being sweet, sweet indeed.  However, there is a sense of jealousy and longing.  While these two get to hold each other and kiss for all to see, we hide in civil disobedience, talk on Skype, live in exile.  We wait for our country to give us equal (not special) rights.  

Secretary of State, Hillary Clinton made the historical speech to the UN about LGBT rights are human rights and human rights are LGBT rights.  We would like for that to extend to the United States of America.  We would like our human rights.  See Clinton's historical speech:


We would like to be able to kiss our loved one in public without fear.  We would like to be able to kiss our spouse without the worry that they will have to leave again soon.  We would like to kiss our sweetheart on American soil as they are granted legal status.

We are American Citizens who are in love with someone who is not an American Citizen.  We cannot sponsor them because we are of the same sex.  We are asking for the right to be allowed to be with our spouses.

While we are encouraged by this kiss, I look forward to the day when bi-national couples can "kiss in the sunlight and say to the sky...behold and believe what you see.  Behold how my lover loves me."

Monday, December 5, 2011

Christians vs Gays

Today I read where a teenager, who is gay, said the following, "...I know that God hates me..."
As a Christian, when I read that, my heart sunk.  When did we as Christians fail a whole group of people?  When did we think it was right to tell them that God hates them and their "lifestyle"?  When did we as Christians go from the Great Commission to passing God's judgement onto a people?

I know what Romans says.  It was written by Paul to the Church of the Romans.  I am not here to argue that.  I am not here to argue that the Bible never condemns a monogamous same sex relationship.  I am here to say that as Christians, we have failed to tell a group of people that God loves them.  We are too busy pointing out what the Bible says that we have failed to point out what the Bible says...yes I meant that.

We need to look and see how the Son of God lived His life on this earth.  He ate with the publicans and sinners.  That was the biggest criticism that the ruling religious body of the time had against Jesus.  Jesus chose to hang out with them to tell them of God's love.  John 3:17 says, "God sent not His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved."  So God's sole purpose of sending His beloved Son into the world was so that they could be saved.

Christians today seem to have forgotten that Matthew 28:19 &20 says Go and Teach ... not go and judge.  They seem to have forgotten that God calls lying an abomination.  They seem to have forgotten that the reason Christians are left on this Earth and not taken to Heaven immediately after conversion is to tell others of Jesus' love, death, burial and resurrection.

My wife and I signed our son up for the Baptist Church Preschool.  Why?  Because we wanted him to learn about Jesus dying on the cross to save him from his sin.  We wanted him to learn about the Almighty sending His Son.  We received a letter stating that the preschool had nothing to offer our son.  We have reason to believe that the reason why is because we told them we are a lesbian couple.  Not one time did any of those people offer to us the Gospel.  The Good News of the Saviour.  

I am a Christian.  I am a lesbian.  There is no conflict.  I have the peace which passes all understanding and the knowledge that "God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life."

One more observation/question:  When is the last time, as a Christian, you have picked up your Bible and read it...outside of Church.  When is the last time you actually prayed for the salvation of the Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered people?  When is the last time you thought to actually study what the Bible really says about it with a prayerful attitude?

Thursday, December 1, 2011

The Holidays for Bi-National Same Sex Couples

As the holidays draw close, most people's thoughts turn to spending time with their loved ones, Christmas shopping and presents, large meals and family time.  For the 40,000 plus bi-national same sex couples, (estimated from the 2010 US Census)  the holidays often take on a different meaning:  Lonely separation. 

My lovely friend in Colorado will celebrate Christmas with her wife via Skype.  Her wife is British and lives in the UK.  In spite of her wife's extensive education, there is no "line" at the immigration office for this bi-national couple to get into.

My very dear friend lives in California, her wife, her legal wife (married in Canada and in California) will be in England due to the United States immigration discriminatory laws. These two ladies pose no threat to anyone, as a matter of fact, the Californian is a Military Veteran.  In spite of serving her country, her country refuses to acknowledge her marriage to her lovely wife from the United Kingdom.  They, too, will spend Christmas apart....touching their computer screens instead of holding each other.

 I have a friend on twitter who is struggling on telling her son (age 2) and daughter (age 6), that their "other" Mom's visa may not be renewed.  Another family separated by the so called Defense of Marriage Act and immigration discrimination.  Will they be able to watch their children open their presents....together as a family?

  Things that heterosexuals take for granted, spending holiday's with the family, watching the kids open presents, sitting around the dinner table, are things that bi-national same sex couples pray to be a reality soon.  

For a bi-national couple living exiled in New Zealand, you would think that life is perfect for them, after all, they are together legally.    Here is the two of them singing together a song that the Hoosier wrote for her New Zealand wife.  The Hoosier longs to "sit on the porch and have a beer with her dad in Indiana"     

These are just a few of my bi-national friends.  I could go on and on about friends living in exile in Canada and two other couples moving to Canada before the end of the winter season, but I won't.  I won't tell you of a lovely New York one of them is from New York the other from Italy... they struggle with issues that heterosexual couples would never even think about.  If they marry, will that cause problems with Homeland Security?  Will the New Yorker's lovely wife be "red flagged" by Homeland Security because of their marriage...even though it is legal in New York?

Think about us, think about the bi-national couples as you celebrate the holidays with your loved ones.  As you hug your sweetheart, know that others are just touching a computer screen.  As you snuggle with your children, know that bi-national couples are scared and worrying that their children will be torn from their non-US citizen parent.

There are some that live in the United States illegally, in civil disobedience, seeing this as the only option to be together.  Exile is not an option for some of these couples.  Moving to their partner's country is not an option in some of these cases.

Author, Judy Rickard, in a bi-national relationship herself, has written a book called

A repeal of DOMA needs to take place.  The passing of the Uniting American Families Act, needs to take place.  We are human beings.  We have families.  We have fallen in love with a person who is not a US Citizen.  We need to be allowed to be with our spouses...we need to be allowed to pursue our happiness.

Other Resources:
Stop the Deportations:  The DOMA Project
Immigration Equality
Lavi Soloway:  Attorney

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

American Family Association Sends an Email Full of Lies


 This email was sent to me on November 16, 2011 by the American Family Association.  The lies throughout the email are fantastic.  The misrepresentation of the facts is close to being liable.  The whole of the untruths is so Unchristian it is amazing.  

I am quite sure that this is not what the Bible means when it says to Preach the Gospel and to love our neighbors.

I cut and pasted this.  I changed nothing except removing my personal identifying information.


 American Family AssociationTake Action Now


Gay weddings coming to ? - Senate voting on repeal of 'one man, one woman' marriage

S. 598 now goes to the full Senate, where YOUR Senators can stop it dead in its tracks.
November 15, 2011

Dear ,

Late last week, the Senate Judiciary Committee voted to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and force to recognize same-sex marriages from other states.
If passed by the full Senate, the so-called "Respect for Marriage Act" (S. 598) will repeal DOMA and give federal recognition to two homosexuals who wish to be "married."
S. 598 shows anything but respect for the sanctity of marriage. Urge your Senators to stop this bill!
The repercussions are enormous:
  • States laws protecting marriage as between "one man, one woman" will become null and void - including the 31 states who have voted on constitutional amendments.
  • The military will be thrown into complete chaos and disarray, as Department of Defense leaders try to figure out housing, benefits, and "same-sex spouse" sensitivity training regimens.
  • Churches will come under fire from radical homosexual activists. Ministers and churches will be sued for "religious discrimination" for refusing to perform or allow gay "marriages."
  • Public schools will be forced to indoctrinate our children, teaching them that homosexual marriage is both natural and acceptable.
S. 598 now goes to the full Senate, where YOUR Senators can stop it dead in its tracks.
Last July, White House Press Secretary Jay Carney said President Obama supports the bill to repeal DOMA. Carney replied: "I can tell you that the president has long called for a legislative repeal of the so-called Defense of Marriage Act...He is proud to support the Respect for Marriage Act...which would take DOMA off the books once and for all."
Take Action
Email your senators today, without delay! Urge them to do everything within their power to protect marriage by voting AGAINST S. 598.
After sending your email, please call your senators personally. Ask for your senators by name when you call the Capitol switchboard at 202-224-3121.

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Tuesday, November 15, 2011

In Touch With The American Voters

What do the majority of United States Citizens think about Marriage Equality?

LOS ANGELES | Fri May 20, 2011 10:26pm EDT
(Reuters) - Fifty-three percent of Americans support making gay marriage legal, a Gallup poll showed on Friday, a marked reversal from just a year ago when an equal majority opposed same-sex matrimony.

  CNN Politics

Poll: More Americans favor same-sex marriage


(CNN) – Support for same-sex marriage has received a boost, according to a new CNN/Opinion Research survey released Tuesday.

The poll indicates that more than half of all Americans believe that marriages between gay or lesbian couples should be legally valid. With 51 percent of respondents saying that same-sex marriages should be legal, it is the first time that a CNN poll has found majority support for same-sex marriage.
Full results (pdf) 

Poll: Support for gay marriage continues to rise

November 03, 2011 

|By David Lauter,
Washington Bureau
Public acceptance of same-sex marriage has grown at an accelerating pace, with approval jumping by nine percentage points in the past two years and the nation now evenly divided on the issue, according to a new Pew Research Center survey released Thursday.
The poll, conducted in late September and early October, showed 46% of Americans surveyed support legalizing same-sex marriage and 44% are opposed. The survey among 2,410 adults has a margin of error of plus or minus 2.5 percentage points.


In listening to the arguments that Republicans put forth regarding the Respect for Marriage Act (at the Senate Judiciary Committee Hearing),  I was amazed at how little they cared about getting any new arguments.  As a matter of fact, most of the eight "nays" ... their NO votes were given by proxy.  They don't really care enough about the Lesbian and Gay community to even show up at the vote.  

Senator Grassley from Iowa of course puts up the inevitable tired argument "traditional  one man one woman marriage".  He is gently, affectionately and respectfully debunked by Senator Al Franken:  “We need to be accurate when we talk about the history of man and woman,” noting that at one point women were chattel.

After thirteen years of Independent Fundamental Baptist Bible School/College education, I did a lot of research. 
My findings:  The Bible Says - Homosexuality
I found a theologian who graduated from Harvard and the conservative Bob Jones University who wrote a book on reexamining the Biblical Evidence on Same-sex relationships called The Children Are Free.

Just because a person is straight, that doesn't mean that they have morals or family values.  Just because a person is a lesbian or gay, doesn't mean that they have no morals or family values.  This is yet another ancient argument that is proven wrong every day by decent, family oriented and loving same sex couples.

One of the most insulting arguements that was presented at the Judiciary Committee Respect for Marriage Act hearing was the following:

Senator Cornyn:
"Repealing the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) would actually result in an expansion of federal benefits and spending at a time when we know that federal spending is way out of control and our entitlement programs are unsustainable,"

"Repealing the Defense of Marriage Act would actually increase the cost of Social Security that is already insolvent, more money is going out than coming in."

"No one, no one has paid into the Social Security system expecting benefits to be paid to same sex partners."

This man, this elected Senator actually believes that because a person is a lesbian or because they are gay, that they do not deserve to get federal benefits even though they have paid into it all of their lives. Um Senator, I am a lesbian and I believe that I and my family have the right to federal benefits.  I have been and still do pay in to Social Security expecting that I and/or my family will benefit from it.

Senator Grassley mentioned religion.  They should read their Bibles:

Matthew 22:36-40

New International Version (NIV)
36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”
 37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
  1. Matthew 22:37 Deut. 6:5
  2. Matthew 22:39 Lev. 19:18

It deeply saddens, distresses and appalls me that our elected officials readily admit that they do not feel that gay and lesbian people are deserving of equal rights.  We are Americans.  We are citizens of the United States of America.  We are people.  We are not low life, scum sucking, free loading people looking for a hand out.  We are productive citizens of the greatest country in the world.  We should be treated with the same respect as our straight counterparts.  "...with Liberty and Justice for ALL"

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Where Are We With DOMA and the UAFA?

Let's start with the Uniting American Families Act.  Sadly, it looks like we just don't have enough clout to get Lamar Smith to release it from being held hostage in the House Judiciary Committee.

The Uniting American Families Act would give bi-national same sex couples the ability to sponsor their partners/spouses.  I do not believe that most of Congress, or even the President of the United States actually knows what it takes to immigrate to the United States.  Their ignorance and their lack of desire to educate or research shows how little they really care about bi-national same sex couples.  In my correspondence to Congress, I have been told that I shouldn't expect to be put ahead in the line for immigration.  I have heard the President say that we need to wait our turn.  What they don't seem to realize is that there is no line for bi-national same sex couples in which to stand.  There is no legal way for our spouses to immigrate.  We are pleading for Congress to understand this.  In trying to explain this to some of the Congress people, I have been told basically that it is because homosexuals are not part of the nuclear family.  I struggle to understand how anyone can tell me, an American Citizen, who I can or cannot love.  I struggle to understand how Congress can tell me that who I love is less important; is less than who the straight people love. This page on is very informative. For even more information the Immigration Equality Action Fund is an excellent resource.

We need to get this horrible, cruel, and torturous behavior changed.  We need to pass the Uniting American Families Act.

Now onto the ironically named "Defense of Marriage Act" which  defines marriage as between one man and one woman.  There are bills in Congress to right this horrible wrong being done to the lesbian and gay couples called the Respect for Marriage Act.  The wonderful Honorable Senator Diane Fienstien was recently interviewed on MSNBC and stated that although she did not feel that they have the votes to pass the Respect for Marriage Act, she would be in this for the long haul.  This is small comfort for those of us who are waiting for the above Uniting American Families Act to pass.

 Congress refuses to listen to the

 1.  Majority of Americans who say that they are for Marriage Equality.

Congress refuses to listen to

2.  Civil Rights Leaders including:

Civil Rights leader and NAACP Chairman Emeritus Julian Bond

Civil Rights Leader Dolores Huerta

Civil Rights leader Julian Bond 

Congress refuses to listen to

3.  Seventy organizations filed an Amicus Brief on behalf of repealing DOMA.  Read the Entire Brief Here.   The amicus curiae brief, filed November 3, 2011, supports the Gill et al. v. Office of Personnel Management case challenging the denial of federal rights and benefits to legally married same-sex couples.

With all of this support for Marriage Equality, why in the world does Congress continue to support the evil, discriminatory Defense of Marriage Act. It is my hope that the courts will declare DOMA dead and federal marriage equality will then exist. The fight will continue for the states to pass Marriage equality for all. We are Americans. We deserve the same as all Americans...the ability, the right to be with the one that we love.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Traditions are for Families.

"I believe in traditional marriage being between one man and one woman...."  --Eric Cantor speaking at the University of Michigan 

Traditions are for holidays.  Traditions are for memories.  Traditions are made for memories.  Marriage is a tradition I hope to have between my wife and I.  (Yes I am a lesbian)  We make our own traditions.  Traditions are not laws.  Traditions should not be made to be a law.  "This is the way we have always done it" is not the reason for a law.
Just because something is a tradition, doesn't mean it is always right.

                           Women Voting
                           Black People's Rights
                           Interracial Marriage
                           Wigs on Men in Congress
                           Public Hanging
                           Public Flogging
                           Branding People With Letters (The Scarlet Letter)
                           A Sin Against God Being a Crime (adultery)

All of these were eventually changed.  If you think that God is against homosexuality, that didn't even make God's top ten list.  Sins that did make God's top 10:

Remember that there is supposed to be separation of Church and State....not when it is convenient for the Church, but all the time. 

Traditions are for families.  Let my family have mine.  We need to pass the Respect for Marriage Act.  We need to pass the Uniting American Families Act.  We need to allow all Americans to begin to make their own family traditions!

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

The Uniting American Families Act

While I can provide people with the legal terms of The Uniting American Families Act, what I want to say about it is this:  We are torn apart from those with whom we have fallen in love.  We are separated from our wives and children.  We are living in exile in different countries so we can be with our partners only to be apart from our families.   ....  We are Americans being told that we do not deserve the same rights as other Americans.  We are Americans being told that because someone doesn't like the way that we live, they can tell us how to live.  We are Americans being told that we are not important enough.  We are Americans being discriminated against because of whom we love. 

The bottom line being that we are Americans being told that we are not important enough, that we are too different, that we are nothing...not worth having the same rights as our heterosexual counterparts.

Because so many people have bought into this, because people think that they are much better than the gay and lesbian people (they say so each time they say that a vote for them is a vote for morals), because they think they have God on their side (although they have not picked up a Bible in years), they are against us.

The LGBT youth have been committing suicide at appalling rates and have the support to do this by our right wing government, clergy, and adults.  "Christians" have seem to have forgotten that Jesus said the first two commandments are love the Lord God and to love your neighborhood as yourself.

We want to be able to sponsor our spouses for immigration, please!
Now here is the Legal Stuff:

From Wikipedia

The Uniting American Families Act (UAFA, H.R. 1537, S. 821) is a U.S. bill to amend the Immigration and Nationality Act to eliminate discrimination in the immigration laws by permitting permanent partners of United States citizens and lawful permanent residents to obtain lawful permanent resident status in the same manner as spouses of citizens and lawful permanent residents and to penalize immigration fraud in connection with permanent partnerships. Section 18 of the bill would be amended to include permanent partnerships as an illegal way to evade any provision of the immigration law and allow for the individual to be imprisoned for no more than five years, fined for up to $250,000 or both. Also, if the partnership ends within two years the sponsored partner’s legal immigrant status would come under review.

UAFA was most recently introduced during the 112th Congress, to the United States House of Representatives on April 14, 2011, by New York Congressman Jerrold Nadler (D-NY).

Friday, October 21, 2011

Redefining Christianity - Are Christians today "Christ-like"

Acts 11:26

"...and the disciples were called Christians first at Antioch"

From Wikipedia

The Greek word Χριστιανός (christianos)—meaning "follower of Christ"—comes from Χριστός (christos)—meaning "anointed one" —with an adjectival ending borrowed from Latin to denote adhering to, or even belonging to, as in slave ownership.

So Christians are "Christ like". What is it about the Saviour that Christians should be like. Well, all of His life.

1. Christ was very learned about the Scriptures. The Gospel of Luke contains the following story.

Luke 2:46-49
46 And it came to pass , that after three days they found him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the doctors, both hearing them, and asking them questions .

47 And all that heard him were astonished at his understanding and answers.

48 And when they saw him, they were amazed : and his mother said unto him, Son, why hast thou thus dealt with us? behold , thy father and I have sought thee sorrowing .

49 And he said unto them, How is it that ye sought me? wist ye not that I must be about my Father's business?

Do Christians today know the Scriptures? Do they memorize the Scriptures? This is part of being a Christian; being Christlike.

2. Christ preformed miracles

3. Christ cast out demons

Both numbers two and three require power from God. In our day, power from the Holy Spirit. (Acts 1:8) Do Christians today have the power of God to cast out demons and preform miracles?

4. Christ only got angry with Satan and the ruling Religious body of the time.

The reason He was angry with the ruling religious right of the time is because they were judgmental and self-righteous.
5. Jesus preferred to hang out with "publicans and sinners". That was a big criticism from the religious right.

6. Jesus was merciful and good.

7. Jesus forgave

In my opinion, and according to the life of the Lord Jesus Christ, the Religious Right of today; the Christians; have taken the path of the Pharisees instead of the path of Christ.

"How much do you have to hate somebody to not proselytize? How much do you have to hate someone to believe that everlasting life is possible and not tell them that?" - Penn Jillette

What did Jesus say were the two greatest commandments?

Matthew 22:37-40

New International Version (NIV)

37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’

38 This is the first and greatest commandment.

39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’

40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

I am asking for those who think that the gay agenda is to redefine marriage, are you redefining Christianity?

I don't want to re-define anything, I just want the right and the freedom to be married to the love of my life and the ability to sponsor my wife for immigration to the United States of America.

Be a Biblical Christian about it.

Friday, October 7, 2011

A Vote For Values & Morals

I have seen hundreds of polls, articles, and opinions stating that people need to vote against Marriage Equality because it is the moral thing to do. Vote to defend Marriage. I am over it.

First of all, I am a lesbian. Secondly, I have morals and Thirdly, I am for Marriage, I want mine to be legal in all 50 states and recognized federally.

It is appalling to me that people think that just because I am for same sex relationships, I don't have any morals or family values. Nothing can be further from the truth. I have never ever cheated on my wife and`we have two sons together who are outstanding, good boys.

People can pick out examples of immoral behaviors, even criminal behaviors of non-heterosexual people and hold those up and say this is how they behave. However,the same can be done of heterosexuals. Heterosexuals are immoral, without values. Most serial killers are heterosexual males. How many heterosexual State and Federal Congress folks have cheated on their spouses?

They cheer because of executions because God says an "eye for an eye" and "whosoever sheds man's blood, by man shall his blood be shed"

They boo a gay military man, serving in Iraq because God says ......  Well, God doesn't condemn homosexuality, but they think He does

They say that a man who is over $100,000 behind on child support is pro-family because he is anti abortion. 

To quote Jesus "He who is without sin, let him cast the first stone..."

So when someone says "vote to protect Marriage". I say yes, vote to protect marriage to my wife is just as important to protect as (for example) my nephew's marriage to his wife.
When someone says we need to vote to protect morals, I say vote to protect morals...make adultery or divorce illegal.

When someone says that we need to protect our children. There is nothing I agree with more than that. Let's make penalties for child abuse harsher so that people will think twice about hurting children.

A vote for family values and morals is a vote to allow lesbian and gay folks to have equal marriage rights. Believe that!

Why, in the United States of America, why do we still have to fight for equal rights for all?  If I have heard this once, I have heard it a million times:  "I may not agree with what he says, but I will fight for the right for him to say it.  Isn't this the same thing?  I want to live with my wife, have my relationship recognized and honored as equal to heterosexual marriages.  I want our children to be able to have the benefits that other children are afforded.  I don't want my family to have a stigma on it because we are lesbians.  I live in the United States of America... shouldn't I have that right?

Let's get the Respect for Marriage Act passed (repeal the so called Defense of Marriage Act) and the Uniting American Families Act passed to give all Americans full equal rights. It is good, it is moral, it is the right thing to do!