It is like they have no clue that they are dealing with actual people and their lives. Homosexuality is an issue and easily pushed away with an "I don't support it". Bi-National Same Sex Couples are people...real people with hearts that are breaking because they cannot be with the love of their life.
I was actually told to me by a Congressman to go ahead and leave my country and live in my sweethearts country and when the time was right, we could move back here. And I quote,
"Serious about this person? Unite in his country don't try to change our laws. Later he can immigrate as everybody else."
Really??? I have the right to live in my country. I should have the right to live in my country with the spouse of my choosing. This is such a basic thing. I don't understand how people can brush us aside and say that they are against homosexuality. Are you against the Mom who lives in England who wants nothing better than to be here in the United States with her wife and their daughter?
My own story is one I have shared. I am in love with a woman who is from the Netherlands. Life is difficult as our life together is one of coming and going. One of looking over our shoulder. One of crossing at different borders so we could be together. Finding the busiest crossing site so they will not ask too many questions. Our future is unsure. Where will we be able to live in safety? Where will we be able to live without time running out on a visa waiver? Should I pick her up in Canada.... or can she fly into Chicago? I remember being in the Netherlands, having just been told that they would not approve her visa and she could not return to the USA with me. My entire being ached with the pain of the separation. I wept.
We are currently at the mercy of people who would rather dismiss us with the wave of a hand as if brushing away a small gnat. Please be put on notice: The real person that you think you are dismissing with the wave of your hand is holding on for the lives of their family; the right to have a life with the one we love. We will never give up on equal rights for all Americans!